Navigating This Time

Earlier than this video, I had not gone “stay” on Fb and Instagram for fairly a while! Between my accident and what’s taking place on the planet I needed to take a while to navigate issues myself. On this LIVE I stuff that’s heavy on my thoughts and on my coronary heart, particularly as an empath. A number of change in all of our worlds since I used to be final stay! 

NAVIGATING THIS TIME 

Transcription of what I share on this the LIVE under

A lot of you noticed on social media about my damage this yr. I had a torn bicep, which I’ll share about that in only a minute. However I’m excited to attach and chat with you. I believe particularly throughout these occasions, it’s necessary to remain linked head to head, although we will’t do it truly in particular person, however on movies. Thanks, zoom and Fb stay and Skype and home get together and FaceTime and all of the issues that we will really feel human and be a part of one another.

What occurred after I was in Costa Rica

So after I was in Costa Rica on a trip earlier than all of the craziness was taking place on the planet, I made a decision to play by the waterfalls and in a Mayan Smash. And it was nothing unsafe, nothing loopy. I used to be scared although as a result of I’m fearful of being underwater. I do know bizarre worry, nevertheless it’s my worry. And so I used to be holding onto this rock actually, actually, actually tight, like holding on with pricey life, holding on. And I have to’ve had my arm actually straight and after I jumped in I tore my bicep. How do you try this? I assume that’s the way you do it. So it wasn’t a loopy exercise. It was simply being actually stiff and scared. I tore it. It damage actually unhealthy. I didn’t know I tore it. It seemed dented and mushed up. What about my trip was actually painful for like six days after which it stopped hurting. 

And the rationale I’ve discovered that it stopped hurting is if you tear your bicep or the tenet round it, it’ll actually curl up into your arm. And as soon as it’s unattached, it stops hurting. In order that’s why the ache stopped. However three weeks later, again within the US, my bicep was wanting funky, my arm was being actually unusual. So I went to an orthopedic surgeon, had an MRI and was in surgical procedure the very subsequent day, that evening getting reattached. So that is now a part of my arm for 10 weeks. Enjoyable stuff. I will resume exercises at six months. So good occasions enjoyable stuff with nerve injury and all of the issues. And also you guys, I do know it’s a selfie picture proper now, nevertheless it’s my proper arm so I’m proper hand dominant. So, can’t write, can’t sort, can’t do my very own hair, trigger all my Instagram tales final evening you noticed my husband did my hair in that coal. 

Surrendering at its best

So I’ve needed to study quite a lot of surrendering, which is so fascinating as a result of what’s happening on the planet proper now? We’re all studying that very same lesson, proper? About not realizing what’s subsequent. Consolation having to give up, and shift and alter and settle for. So I really feel like I had a few two week leap on everybody with this taking place. However right here all of us, we’re all right here. So thanks for becoming a member of me at present. What am I going to share at present? Um, is type of what I’ve been doing. Wouldn’t it be a few of what I’ve been doing, what a few of my highly effective pals which might be thriving proper now are doing, to navigate via these robust occasions. And I’m hoping to assist you with a few of this as a result of this could be frequent sense to a few of you, however to a few of you it’s a stretch. 

As a result of it’s actually loopy occasions proper now. Like in historical past, that is going to be one thing we bear in mind perpetually. There’s so much happening on the planet. We’re scared or anxious. I pulled lots of you on my viewers lately and you already know, the 2 emotions that got here up actually heavy had been nervousness and despair. Any of you feeling these issues? Let me know within the feedback if you’re, I are typically somebody that goes to nervousness. I’m not an nervousness knowledgeable, however I’m an knowledgeable in feeling it. So I are inclined to go to that and I do know collectively when there’s quite a lot of us feeling it, it’s fascinating what occurs from that as a result of if persons are sharing their nervousness with others, it simply retains it going proper. It retains it going. So have actually carried out quite a lot of reflecting on learn how to shift this and what’s happening. 

Supporting one another

And that’s what I needed to share with you and provide some perception at present, so we will assist one another round us. And simply to rewind somewhat bit, I’m 48 years previous and I share my age so much due to what I do for a residing that I assist ladies age in reverse. A lot of you already know that, however I share that additionally as a result of I’ve been via quite a lot of occasions in historical past the place there was huge, huge setback, nervousness, shortage, being frightened, being scared, feeling uncontrolled. And all of us made it via the opposite aspect in a fantastic house. And it simply to provide you somewhat run down reminiscence lane for a lot of of you do bear in mind this, a few of you may’ve been too younger to recollect it, however 9 11, I lived in Washington D C on the time. 

It stopped our nation coordinates tracks, particularly in the event you lived in DC or New York Metropolis. By no means knew of life would return to regular. Simply actually modified quite a lot of our careers, modified quite a lot of our visions, quite a lot of scary issues taking place again in these occasions. And you already know, we’ve, we’ve got quite a lot of us that bounce again from that, proper. It actually defines a spot in historical past. Bounced again a yr after 9 11, I used to be residing within the Northern Virginia space and in the event you bear in mind on the information then there was a sniper attacker on the free. Like actually this man was going round capturing individuals together with his sniper. Completely random. And I lived within the neighborhood, the realm that was taking place and, and we had been on lockdown in our properties for 3 weeks. I’ll always remember that it was so scary otherwise you couldn’t go to the grocery retailer or the gasoline station, that issues which might be open now since you had been scared, you’d get shot by a sniper. 

Big nervousness

So being scared got here up, got here from that. After which quick ahead somewhat bit, 2008, 2009 I bear in mind what was happening. Then an enormous crumble within the monetary market within the housing market. A number of persons are shedding their jobs. Lots of people had made some huge cash with mortgages and housing and flipping properties and all of that was carried out. Quite a lot of despair was setting in. Quite a lot of issues change. The explanation I’m mentioning these proper now could be quite a lot of blessings got here from these ache. Lots of people that you just see as leaders at present that share that educate, that inspire you, they created what they created due to these arduous occasions. Their ache in these occasions turned their goal. A few of you already know my story, a few of you don’t, however 2008 this was me. 

2007-2009 kicked my butt and possibly yours too!

I simply had my daughter in 2007, had gained quite a lot of weight, and was very depressed. I misplaced my residence that yr. I used to be massively in debt. I used to be going via a divorce, the worst despair I’d ever confronted in my life. Utterly depressing was a very totally different particular person, however my entire life pivoted due to that ache. I ended up altering myself internally. I modified quite a lot of you due to that, my enterprise was born, Natalie Jill Health was born. Due to that, I impacted a whole bunch of 1000’s of you. I’ve helped lots of you personally get your life again. Quite a lot of wonderful issues got here from my hardships as a result of I walked via it. So, I’m not alone with that. There’s many leaders that you just comply with. There’s many motivational individuals. You comply with, individuals that you just view as success for individuals, mentors, they turned who they had been as a result of they walked via arduous occasions. 

Innovation, innovation, creativity. Superb options come after arduous occasions. I share that now as a result of proper now quite a lot of us are feeling very heavy that there’s no hope or that is very scary and what’s going to return from this? And I wish to share that in ache, in setbacks, there’s additionally creativity that’s born. There’s additionally those that ended up thriving and serving to so many others. So wonderful issues can come from that too. Okay? It might probably do, I would like you to know that. I would like that to be a realizing that you’ve got as a result of it’s, it’s very true. So right here’s what I would like. I wish to share with you at present. There’s issues that you are able to do proper now to shift you. Remark it. Have you ever stated I’m feeling anxious, I’m feeling scared. I’m anxious. I do know quite a lot of you had been there and I used to be undoubtedly feeling too, there’s quite a lot of issues you are able to do proper now to start out shifting that. 

Being caught and feeling anxious and feeling depressed and never taking motion and simply feeling actually hopeless with that, that doesn’t repair something. It doesn’t repair something. However there’s some issues that you may do. So that you who’d come out on the opposite aspect in a really totally different place. And these are issues that me and my husband have undoubtedly been doing ourselves. And these are issues that lots of my pals which might be strolling via proper now. So I hope this helps you. 

Honor your emotions

So the very first thing I would like you to know is to honor your emotions. Prefer it’s okay to really feel like, so if you might want to have a crying match, if you might want to take a bathe, let the water do it, however honor your emotions. So we are inclined to, as adults, masks our emotions so much. Like we, they’re considering we will’t have them, we’ve got to cover them or we flip to issues to masks them, like additional sleeping or you already know, or ingesting or some individuals flip to prescribed drugs or medication or no matter to masks emotions. And if you masks emotions, do you simply push them again down? It doesn’t do something. However if you truly launch emotions and also you let your self have that good cry, you share with a girlfriend, you get it out of you, it’s gone. So share your emotions. I’m gonna encourage you to get that out. Share that up. Get that out. Okay? Get these emotions out.

Cease obsessing over the information

The following factor, cease obsessing in regards to the information and I’m going to say it like, sure, it’s essential to know what’s happening on the planet. We have to know what’s taking place on the planet, however we don’t have to obsess over it. Like verify in as soon as a day. Have a member of the family that’s not having nervousness. Verify in with you. Verify in and know what’s happening. Remember, however don’t obsess over it. Obsessing over your Fb feed, obsessing over the information, obsessing over what, what if’s. The concern that every little thing happening that doesn’t assist us. You can not personally management or repair any of that. So obsessing over it simply makes you are feeling caught, anxious, depressed, all of the issues. I’m not telling you to keep away from the information, I’m simply telling you to not obsess over it. Gosh, I discovered myself doing it. I used to be scrolling my private Fb each day, obsessing over it, like getting misplaced in articles, the truth is, and it was altering me. It was in, in uh, after I realized like, this isn’t serving anybody, want doing this doesn’t serve anybody. So, simply stopped. I actually stated, I’m not doing it anymore. I verify in as soon as a day as sources that I wish to verify, like factual sources simply to know what’s happening, to remember, however I’m not obsessing over. So I’m gonna encourage you, in the event you’re feeling anxious, in the event you’re feeling depressed, cease obsessing over the information, cease validating it with everyone and cease that as a result of it’s not serving anybody and it’s not going to repair something you obsessing over it. That’s large.

DECIDE what it’s you truly need

The following factor, proper now, throughout this time, resolve what you need in your life throughout this time and what would you like a yr from now? If it’s a yr from now, and this has handed a yr from now, what do you wish to replicate again on? I do know that you just use this time for what do you wish to resolve proper now? Similar to I’ve coached so lots of you in weight reduction and fats loss to resolve, I’ve coached so lots of you to resolve that you just’re carried out with the surplus weight you’re carried out with being unhealthy or carried out with no matter. I’m going to ask you a similar factor.

What do you wish to resolve proper now that you just wish to look again and say that you just did throughout this time? Did you study one other language? Did you learn to diversify your revenue? Did you study a brand new ability? Did you grow to be a greater mother? Did you spend extra time along with your youngsters? Did you get nearer with your loved ones? Did you utilize this time to meditate, to do yoga, to stroll, to care for your self? Did you study? Use this time to study a brand new ability. Determine proper now.

You wish to come out the opposite aspect on this as a result of in the event you’re not making that call and also you’re simply letting the day occur to you, then you definitely’re residing in nervousness and fear and worry and it’s not fixing something as a result of you may’t management that. We can not management personally proper now what’s taking place with this virus. We are able to’t management personally what’s taking place with the hospitals. We are able to management staying at residence and you need to. We are able to management retaining ourselves as secure, as greatest as we will. We are able to management being there for others. We are able to management all these issues, however we can not. We are able to’t do it. So resolve proper now, how do you wish to use this time? What do you wish to use for this time? Determine what does that study one other language or one other ability. Diversify your revenue.

I’ll let you know that three years in the past after I had a setback personally in my life and my enterprise and with my marriage, I had a bunch of issues happening. Three years in the past I decided proper then and there. What I used to be deciding was that I used to be one diversifying my revenue. I used to be going to have 5 totally different locations that revenue was coming from.  I made a decision that proper then and there I made a decision that I used to be going to alter my relationship with my husband. I made these choices and that’s what I additionally determined, proper then I used to be going to find out how individuals leveled up and created every little thing from nothing. My podcast was born. From that point I made a decision I wish to know learn how to individuals stage up and create every little thing from nothing. In order that’s what I did. I made a decision that. So I’m going to ask you after this stay or proper now, resolve what’s it that you really want. If it’s a yr from now and also you look again on this time, what did you resolve you needed to make use of this time for?

Take in your day

The following factor, take in your day. Take in your day like hear, in the event you’re beginning your day on a regular basis with like, Oh my gosh, what’s happening within the information proper now and the way am I going to really feel at present that isn’t taking in your day. Taking in your day is getting up at regular time. Do your dang make-up and your hair. So you are feeling good. Dress. If I can do it with one arm, y’all, you are able to do it with to place your self collectively. Create a schedule. Do your day. In the event you’re laying round on the sofa, go on. What day is it being a part of that drawback? Like what day is it? I can’t do something. Scroll Fb. Simply see what’s improper on the planet. You’re not taking in your day and that’s not going that can assist you get out of tension and worry and being scared and depressed. Take in your day. Create a schedule for your self. I really like this the way you stated she went for an early morning stroll. Hearken to a podcast. Return to these programs you purchased. You haven’t carried out it. A lot of you will have my full physique reset. You haven’t carried out it. Go do it. Take in your day. Create a schedule. This is the proper time. You possibly can put together your meals. You possibly can go for a stroll. You possibly can meditate, you may meet up with a good friend. Put together your day. Create a schedule and get your self collectively, however take in your information. It’s going to assist shift nervousness.

Get outdoors and transfer your physique!

Subsequent, get outdoors. I don’t care in the event you stay the place it’s chilly, the place it’s sizzling, you may social distance, however get the heck outdoors. It’s wonderful what actual vitamin D, the daylight, contemporary air and nature, even when it’s simply 15 minutes, get your self outdoors. Go stand outdoors. Go stroll outdoors, hike. In the event you can hold your social distance. I’m not telling you to violate any of that. That will get your self outdoors your entire temper shifts. Simply getting outdoors. Get outdoors. And when you have a chance to get close to water, even higher, however floor your self on actual earth, get your self outdoors. It utterly will aid you shift your temper.

Join with others VIRTUALLY

Subsequent factor, connect with others. Don’t isolate. Don’t isolate. Melancholy is fed by isolation. This is essential y’all. I’ve been depressed earlier than. Melancholy feeds on isolation. Don’t isolate and if you’re anxious, I don’t need you to isolate both. However right here’s the important thing. If you’re feeling nervousness, I don’t need you connecting with different individuals. Really feel an nervousness that doesn’t assist. If it’s feeding on one another, it doesn’t assist join with someone that may assist floor you. Um, there, what I really like about this time is there’s a lot know-how. Like you may join with pals. You would do FaceTime, you may do zoom, you may do Skype, you are able to do, there’s a brand new app referred to as home get together, Fb lies. However join with individuals, see somebody’s face, truly join with individuals. Um, I’ve actually been having fun with on a regular basis I’ve been FaceTiming with not less than one good friend trigger it appears like actual. You realize, it’s like seeing them. I’m not simply speaking to them, I’m FaceTiming them. I’m doing zooms with teams of girlfriends, which has been wonderful. Such as you get six girlfriends on zoom. It’s a free app in your laptop computer or your cellphone and you’ll join with individuals. It’s such as you’re sitting proper collectively. However that connection actually feels good and it’ll actually aid you with that nervousness and despair proper now. 

Shift your Focus

After which the opposite huge factor I wish to share is shift your focus when you end up in doomsday mode, in doomsday mode. Oh my gosh, look what’s taking place within the hospitals. Oh my God, look what’s taking place with this virus. Oh my God, my revenue. That’s doomsday mode. Shift your focus. Shift your focus. Your physique doesn’t know the distinction between what’s truly actual and what you make up in your head. It doesn’t know the distinction. So why feed it? Fear when there’s nothing you are able to do to manage it. Like there’s actually nothing you are able to do to manage that. So why feed it with that? Assume various things and shift your focus. You’re feeling that means. Begin a interest. You’re feeling that we’d go for a stroll. You’re feeling that means. Decide up a e-book, hearken to a podcast. And I’m not saying gold was within the podcast on this matter. Like discover one thing else. Discover one thing from six months in the past, however shift your focus into one thing else. You’ll really feel like a completely totally different particular person.

 I hope this helps you. These are all of the issues that I’ve been doing. You all, and I hope they assist you. And by the way in which, you all, all these items that I’m sharing, I’m not saying to disregard what’s happening on the planet. That’s, that’s not the appropriate means to do that both. I’m saying let’s cease obsessing over issues we will’t management. Let’s shift our focus. So I hope this helped you at present. You all, I’ll leap on and do extra. I used to be lacking you all. So I needed to leap on at present. However I hope this helps you. And if there’s any ideas I didn’t share that you just’re doing, please let me know so I can add them to my record right here. However thanks all for being on with me at present!

XO,

Natalie Jill

 

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